January 23, 2014 by AJ Briones
I have been writing lots of brow-raising stuff here on #ajplus for quite some time now and I have received some comments from people that they have different views and all those are totally alright. Actually, that’s what ajplus has been all about, presenting a contrary thought and breaking the usual and exposing what has been long forgotten about a number of concepts and belief we have. I guess that was the reason why I started this #Dosage blog #series.
I guess that this is one big risky topic I’m going to write about; PRIDE. Immediately when I posted a blog advertisement on my facebook profile someone made a comment against the concept. It is kind of fascinating that due to our cultural upbringing, a lot of words have been abusively used to misuse.
Have you ever heard this statement before? “Have a little pride.” I often would hear this on films where there is a push-around character that does everything an antagonist says even to the point of kissing another one’s shoe. This thought gave me a question. I we giving just credit to the word Pride?
A few weeks ago, I posted on my facebook profile this exact question, “Can anyone help me by sharing their views about #Positive #Pride?” A supervisor of ours gave her comment and it goes like this: “If pride equates to principle, that what makes a man a man. So woman should know how to take care of a man’s pride without sacrificing her own. How to do it? That is d question!” It is kind of fascinating how the word changes based on how you use it. One comment says we have to wipe away the concept of pride but another says that we have to take care of it. Exactly, what is pride?
As a noun Merriam-Webster defines the term as the following:
- a feeling that you are more important or better than other people
- a feeling of happiness that you get when you or someone you know does something good, difficult, etc.
AS it was defined, it is quite evident why a number noted that people should not have pride but what took my attention was the last one:
“A feeling that you respect yourself and deserve to be respected by other people.”
One thought suddenly stuck my mind. At often times we equate pride with the word prideful. Those two are so different when applied into context. To be prideful is to be full of oneself and not willing to one self’s own flaws and weaknesses while pride speaks of a virtue of knowing that all men deserve respect and stand within the boundary line of tolerance and one should not allow the self to be treated so lowly. We were fearfully and wonderfully made? Why let anyone step on that? Though every action to uphold that requires great responsibility; a responsibility that upholds the ideals that all deserve respect and that if people go overboard, we have no right to show disrespect.
Positive pride is Pride and not being Prideful. True pride speaks about dignity, honor and stature. We can never allow ourselves to stoop down in a level of disgrace and dishonour. A true pride under the foundations of unwavering respect.
Have a Dosage of Pride. Positive Pride, that is.